There is a quote that I’ve read on many walls, and seen in various forms, the same quote is accredited a bunch of different authors. But no matter who said it first, or who said it best, the wisdom is unmistakable.
Watch your thoughts for they become words,
Watch your words for they become actions,
Watch your actions, for they become habits,
Watch your habits for they become your character,
Watch your character for it becomes your destiny.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
The best leaders consistently behave in a way that inspires others to perform at their very best. It’s not magic, or even a mystery. They have simply made habits out of how they speak and what they do.
I challenge you to observe the most effective leaders you know. Make a note of how they speak and act…both when things are going well and when things are not going so well. Then, do an honest assessment against yourself. Are there any new habits you might want to adopt?
Habits are not hard to form, but they do take time. Some say it takes 21 days of consistent behavior to form a new habit. I recommend you take a look at that list you formed, and based on your own self-assessment, select one new habit you want to adopt. Then, do it. Each day, reflect on how you did. Give yourself honest feedback. Do you get a gold star? Or a mulligan (a mulligan is a second chance to perform an action, usually after the first chance went wrong through bad luck or a blunder)?
Once you are successful and you have passed the test of time (about 21 days), think about adding another habit.
Before you know it, others will be modeling their leadership behavior off of yours!